February 19th, 2020

Key traits that successful leaders never tolerate

By and large, tolerance is a good trait. The differences we encounter enrich our lives and organisations. But to attain a successful life and meaningful leadership, we must refuse to tolerate the things that deplete, and ultimately destroy us.

Start by declaring these things intolerable in yourself and those around you and see what changes as a result.

1. Dishonesty

Living an honest life allows you to be at peace with others and yourself. Dishonesty imposes a false reality on your life and those around you.

2. Boredom

Successful people are generally exploring something new. Life is too short for inactivity and staying in your comfort zone.

3. Mediocrity

It's easy, and a constant temptation, to settle for less. But what makes some people stand out is their willingness to make the hard choices that allow a life of greatness.

4. Negativity

Every negative thought keeps you from being your best. If you hear yourself complaining, out loud or to yourself, find a way to change the thought to a positive one and shut the negative one down quickly.

5. Toxicity

At work or at home, a toxic environment will literally make you sick. If it doesn't feel right, if it makes you tired or fills you with dread, remove yourself from the situation. 

6. Organisation

Clutter and disorder cause stress and affect your emotional and mental well-being. Get rid of what you don't need and keep everything else where it belongs.

7. Unhealthy anything

Unhealthy food, unhealthy relationship, unhealthy habits.  Choose what you do wisely. Remind yourself that you deserve better, and then give yourself better. 

8. Regrets

We all have regrets, but you can't move towards your future if you're dwelling on the past. Learn from it, right any wrongs where you can, and leave it behind.

9. Disrespect

Relationships are at the heart of success, and respect is at the heart of good relationships. Disrespect whatever the form and whomever it's directed toward is one of the most destructive forces you can hold.

10. Distrust

Distrust often arrives through a succession of little compromises here and there, so be mindful. Focus on building your own integrity and surround yourself with others who do the same.

11. Anger

We all feel anger, and in its place it can move you to action. But holding onto anger is paralysing and accomplishes nothing. Learn to direct anger toward problems, not people, and then get over it and move on. 

12. Control

Don't worry about the things you can't control. Focus your energy where it can do good and what you can control, and learn to let go of the rest.

Start to pay attention to the difference between the things that are truly positive in your life and the things you just let happen. Remember, you are sum of what you tolerate!

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